“You will lose someone you can’t live without, and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.” – Anne Lamott
Got the broken part down.
I am working on the dancing part.
See, dancing with Brad was just about the best thing ever. He was a really good dancer. He knew exactly what he was doing. He would twirl me around, all I had to do was hold on tight and he took care of everything. It was easy. and a lot of fun.
It’s amazing to me how much that reminds me of our life before.
Now, I’m learning to try and do it on my own. But I never was as good a dancer as he was. I’m clumsy and I fall. And you, know one of the reasons for that is clear. I never was meant to be dancing alone.
Sometimes I have to step back and look at the bigger picture. I have to remind myself that I really am not doing this alone. When life gets busy and crazy and I don’t have a minute to myself … that simple fact gets harder to remember. It gets harder to feel my sweet dance partner.
I love this quote. I love the twist of perspective. I had never thought to look at never being the same again after this loss as “the good news”.
But it really is the good news. I will never be the same again. And my dancing will never be as smooth and graceful. But my sweet husband reminds me everyday in little ways that he is still here.
So I’ll just hold on tight.
I love you my boy.